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Perhaps never before in recorded history have events changed as rapidly as they have in the past several decades (or last month). In many ways the human being was not built to live in such rapidly changing conditions. And the stress which changing times places upon us now -- will mostly likely increase in the coming years.

Dr. Mark Thurston, Experiments in a Search for God Part 2 Spirituality (1993-2007):

The development of our ability to cope with the turmoil and uneasiness we see constantly around us is probably our greatest challenge. Dr. Carl Rogers, a pioneer in humanistic psychology, calls this issue a problem far greater than nuclear weapons or the population explosion. In a paper entitled “Interpersonal Relationships: USA 2000,” he writes:” Can (mankind) keep up with the ever-increasing rate of technological change, or is there some point at which the human organism goes to pieces?”

Perhaps the answer to Dr. Rogers’ question lies at least partially in this principle: Times of uneasiness and turmoil bring out either the best or worst in us. In other words, stress and change have a polarizing effect. We will observe this in both our individual lives and in society at large. On some days, the difficulties of these times will bring out the worst side of impatience, skepticism, and worry. And yet, on other days, when we are coming from a more centered place, the same outer conditions can stimulate us to faith and never-before-used inner resources. In our society, we can expect to see in the coming ten to twenty years (currently 2020) a polarizing into two communities: people of faith and hope versus people of fear and worry.

Of course, our job is to try to maintain membership in that first group. One way in which we do this is by responding creatively to daily life situations which present uneasiness and turmoil. Our challenge and opportunity is to not let our hearts be troubled….

So often we are harried, tense and overburdened by the stresses and turmoil of the times even prior to this COVID-19 event. Many of us were overwhelmed by duties, responsibilities, home, work, or family obligations, both in the civilian and military community during active duty stateside or even more during deployments. Stretched to the limit, we already struggled with coping and health stability, relationships and life.

Now we are faced with additional conditions well beyond our own control (COVID-19).

There is a way, properly applied, to lift us out of the community of people who fear and worry, into the faith and hope community: Courage to Change ‘your thinking’. Build a healthy relationship with yourself, and build the health of your family, instead of being a human organism going to pieces, become a whole person in total wellness of body, soul (mind/emotions), and spirit, strengthening core resiliency, with a steadfast resolve to overcome the challenges that life brings, including COVID-19.

The choices are clear, be part of the solution,

so it doesn’t have to continue this way.

Michael & I are going to help you,

beginning tomorrow, our totally unique, Peer to Peer,

'Total Wellness in Times of Trouble' videos begin.

So much has happened since the last Blog, but what is most interesting to me, is that the continuing subject, “It doesn’t have to be this way” was already in process-- before the Coronavirus announcements began. The message today, is as important or even more so, than before.

Faith (from the Search for God), too often our tendency is to look to the rational, analytical mind when we must decide whether we have faith in something. (1) A rational paradox, or (2) all the right reasons why we should have faith, yet --still a feeling of emptiness or doubt. Faith is more an experience of the heart (Soul/Emotion) than of the head (Soul/Logic).

One of the challenges of faith is to accept the circumstances that are given in any moment and trust that they are what is needed for growth—that what is required each day is provided. We find this principle in the story of the Israelites in the wilderness. The manna that was needed for each day was given; however their faith broke down, and out of a sense of fear they tried to collect more than was necessary, the food spoiled. (Exodus 16:11-31).

One interpretation of the Lord’s Prayer points to the same concept. As we say “Give us our daily bread”, we are asking that only that amount of creative energy be awakened from within which we can use in a constructive way THIS DAY.

That which we have right now (be it the degree of our physical health, the amount of money we have in the bank, the number of friends we have, etc.) is a condition our own soul has created, uniquely tailored to fit our needs for growth and awareness. Any movement in consciousness can take place only from where we are, and so we are required to make the most constructive use we can of what we have. Once we have grown in awareness under those circumstances, we are free to accept new ones.

Experiment: Select and write down an aspect of your life in the material world in which you find yourself, then consider the CURRENT CONDITIONS and write down the ways you are challenged to grow by these conditions.


Desire: ‘More appreciation from others’

Challenge: ‘To do things out of love and not for praise or gain from others’

Do we know in whom or what we believe? If so than the ideal or standard toward which we move becomes the basis for the activity of faith in constant action from the mental, imaginative and spiritual forces.”

Dr. Mark Thurston wrote this material in 1976, (some I have paraphrased for this time) in the book, Experiments in a Search for God published by the Edgar Cayce Foundation.

Our nation, and the world, are experiencing for many – a crisis of faith. Questions of who’s to blame for the Coronavirus? How many people will be affected by illness, death, financial hardship, conflict within community, politics, and even division and distance of social personal contact, that isolates instead of coming together?

Does it have to be this way? In the physical, necessary for the containment of a virus (which will also help curtail the flu that has resulted in illness and death tolling hundreds of thousands since last Fall), yes – necessary.

Does it have to be this way mentally? Courage to Change ‘our thinking’, is based on ‘choices’, wisdom, timing, and action appropriate to our personal and community experience.

Does it have to be this way spiritually? We can express a positive active force of showing or manifesting, or bringing to light, a deeper sense of faith, sharing and encouraging others, through unity, rather than division.

The choices are clear, have faith - be part of the solution,

so it doesn’t have to continue this way.

Every morning at our house, begins with prayer, coffee and reading aloud, to each other, a passage from one book or another. Encompassing a broad spectrum of works and subjects related to ‘Body, Soul (Logic/Emotions) or Spirit (Core Belief System)’. For the last two years, one of the books we study is Experiments in a Search for God (Lessons 1-24) by Mark Thurston, PhD.

Michael and I are consistently aware that our day to day reading usually reflects what is happening in our lives, personally and missions we undertake. We don’t believe it’s coincidental. Almost eerily on target, most of the time, we appreciate and embrace the process.

Mostly recently, in the ‘Experiments’, Chapter 22 is about ‘Knowledge’, and within its pages (279-283), a particularly specifically relays a message that holistically relates to our belief in our Mission at Warrior Way Wellness Center. So much of the following is with due respect and acknowledgement, paraphrasing and applying Dr. Thurston’s knowledge to our ‘vision’.

Dr. Thurston: “There is a simple way in which we can help others with their burdens and their worldly cares. It is simply a willingness to listen to them. Listening is loving. Haven’t we all discovered what a powerful expression of love it is to have someone be willing to listen to our own problems?”

“To be a good listener to others we must first of all genuinely care about people. Listening is not merely the physical act of sitting there and not saying anything while another person speaks to you. Other people can tell when you are truly interested and concerned versus those times when you are impatient or preoccupied and appear to be listening but only out of politeness. There are subtle clues that tip off the other person: eye movements, body language, or maybe even the kind of psychic intuitive communication which happens nonverbally between people.

“If we really care about people, then listening comes easily. This is why the first experiment of this message is crucial; practicing a discipline of spending more time thinking lovingly of others. Of course, even if we develop positive habit patterns of really caring about other people, we cannot fully take on the problems of others. That is, we cannot assume the responsibility for whatever difficulty people face. Their own souls are faced with a challenge that no one else can properly step in and take over for them. But help is possible and having someone genuinely listen can be a great help.”

“Haven’t we all had the experience? Something really troubling us, and we find a friend who will listen and suddenly we feel much better. The problem is not solved. The friend did not say, “Oh, I’ll take care of that for you.” (Because most likely, the friend really can’t fix it for you, if it is Soul or Spirit founded)

“In fact, the friend may not have any idea what you should do next. All they can do is to care about you and listen. So how did it work? Why was the listening so potent?”

First, it may have been an affirmation by another, “I care about you.”

For many of our problems we feel threatened that people will not care about us or think as highly of us because of this situation we now face. Having someone say (even indirectly), “I love you even though you have this difficulty,” may ease a large part of the anxiety and pain associated with that difficulty.”

Second, having to explain and talk out a problem may help us to organize our thoughts about the whole matter. Having to communicate feelings and events may help us to objectify and understand them better.”

And finally, there is a third, and perhaps most important reason why someone listening to our difficulty may help us feel better. It reminds us that the solutions will not come from a closed system. That is, we need help from beyond our conscious rational (or irrational) selves. If we close ourselves off, then we are stuck in just the box which created the problem in the first place! Ultimately, the real solution may come by opening ourselves to inner direction from the higher self (or power), or from God.”

“But, an open system is regained”. We may be rehearsing this as we honestly share our concern with another person and observe how they care about us. For a few minutes, at least, we have practices the process which can exist between us and God: trust, vulnerability and openness to receive.”

“Seeing more clearly now how we have been helped by others listening to us, let us turn matters around. We can go out in our world and ease the burdens of others by taking the time to really listen to their concerns.”

Peers listen and meet you where you are, as companions on your journey.

The Colonel's Daughter